How to Cope with Rejection when job-hunting?
Even in the best of times, the employment market remains unpredictable. The onerous chore for job hunters is to approach dozens of potential businesses and ask about openings. And the more positions you apply for, the more probable it is that you may receive occasional rejections.
However, your mental health deteriorates with every rejection. You must find a way to get around this negative mindset because as a job seeker, you can hardly afford to let it keep you down. Writing a personalized application for a job and paying attention during the job interview both require a lot of effort and mental fortitude. Then, if the prospective employer declines your application on the grounds that you are not a good fit for the organization or that they chose another candidate because they had more experience than you, etc. You start to feel undeserving, unappreciated, like a loser, that something is wrong with you, etc.
Here are 5 ways to deal with rejection for job-hunters:
1. Don't personalize situations
Don't personalize the rejections. Your job application may be rejected by an employer for a variety of reasons. Perhaps they are unable to pay what you are asking for, or perhaps another applicant is more qualified than you. Move on, there's another job opening out there. Your own self is the one that criticizes you the most. You also get upset with yourself every time you are rejected. Perhaps you made a poor joke, sent the wrong follow-up email, made a spelling error on your resume, or said something else during the job interview that you wish you hadn't. We are always able to criticize ourselves. But you must always bear in mind to be kind to yourself. Everyone makes errors. Only humans, that's all. Remind yourself that you tried your best. After making a mistake, you learn from it and move on. The ocean contains more fish.
2. Consider your advantages.
It's important about finding the appropriate fit, but keep in mind that you have exceptional abilities and attributes that will be perfectly suited to another firm and job. Make a list of your accomplishments and concentrate on your abilities so that you may confidently and enthusiastically discuss them in your next interview. Add to the list each time you receive some encouraging comments. If you're having trouble coming up with things you're good at, Mandy Edkins, a counseling psychologist, advises asking your friends and coworkers what they would list as your strengths. We are frequently so preoccupied with our flaws that we fail to see our positive qualities. Knowing your strengths will also aid in job search. 3. Request a constructive critique
When you don't get the job, some employers might not give you any criticism, but it doesn't hurt to ask. You'll learn from their criticism what you did incorrectly and be able to better for subsequent interviews. Many interviewers are eager to give you this information, and you can always ask them to keep you in mind in case a better opportunity arises. Mandy Edkins reminds out that rather than letting your imagination run wild and imagining the worst, it can be soothing to learn why you didn't receive the job. Take the criticism seriously, consider what you may have done to present a better interview, and if there are any skills gaps, consider taking a course to assist address them. Just securing an interview is no small accomplishment in a competitive employment market, so you should be proud of yourself.
4. If necessary, take a rest.
Give yourself a short break to recharge and re-energize if you've been looking for work for a while. It might be just what you need to get away from your phone and computer for the weekend. Even spending an afternoon at the beach or on a bushwalk can do wonders for your mental clarity. It could be a good idea to take a break to refocus if you've been looking for work for a while without any luck. You are not required to take a vacation. Going offline for a day could suffice. When you return to your desk, you'll feel refreshed and ready to take on your next application. You'll have peace of mind and the necessary rejuvenation after doing this.
5. Develop Your Self-Assured Calm
Consistent rejection is undoubtedly difficult. We must keep in mind, though, that rejection happens to almost everyone on a regular basis. Ignore what you can't control and concentrate on what you can. Find ways to find your self-assured calm and reach your zen state by taking a good look at yourself in the mirror, reminding yourself of your intrinsic worth. Get up, go to work, and try again after that. Things will go well. - Jonathan H. Westover, Ph.D., Human Capital Innovations, LLC, and Utah Valley University
“It doesn’t matter how many times you get knocked down. All that matters is you get up one more time than you were knocked down.”
― Roy T. Bennett